I am guessing that you are, or will soon be, together with Liana and her family. I have not heard much about Ann's passing, just that she had another stroke. Even with her disabilities she was such a vibrant person, so I can only imagine that her sudden passing makes your home quiet and lonely. All of us who spent time with you in Colorado in November feel so lucky to have had that time with you and Ann.
As with Cathy, Ann and I have been friends from the start of elementary school. With so much physical distance we didn't keep a close connection through adulthood. But by way of Gwen, I always knew where you two were and what Ann's life was about. And our occasional meet-ups over the last 40 years were always fun, and now, very poignant memories. It's the childhood memories that are slamming around in my head though now.
It was obvious that you and Ann had a very dynamic relationship! Observing all the care that you provided her was inspiring...we can all learn from your gentle and consistent support. And Ann was inspiring as well. My observation was that while she needed a lot of help from you she never acted "needy". She seemed so strong and sure of herself. I was genuinely impressed by her strength of personality and character. I know your personal interactions may have been different from how you both were in public, and probably covered a big spectrum of love and struggle, like any marriage. But to those of us on the outer circle it seemed like the two of you had an amazing relationship.
I wish you well Doug, as you adjust your life, and I hope we keep crossing paths occasionally. Please know that across the miles I'm thinking about you and your family. Maybe that provides a tiny bit of comfort in this time of loss.